I first started observing Lent in 2003, several months after I was baptized in American University’s pool.
Though I am not Catholic, I like the Lenten tradition and the idea of giving up something and relying on God for strength. I’ve evolved in my understanding of the tradition — I now see it as focused faith, of trying to live a more intentional life and “giving up” those things that stand in the way.
This year, Lent falls on March 9 and I’m not sure what I will give up, or gain. But I’d like to share with you my Lenten journeys, which I think can be helpful to anyone.
2003: Soda — This was my first Lent and I wasn’t sure how it was supposed to work. At the time, I thought that it meant giving up something you loved, like chocolate. I also considered it a test of faith. I used to be addicted to Diet Coke — I even would sneak in a can to church and hide it under the pew. Thus, I gave up soda for Lent and celebrated my “victory” on Easter with an iced cold glass of liquid brown goodness! I may have missed the point, but it was the thought that counts, right? (In October 2009, I gave up Diet Coke for good and replaced it with coffee.)
2004: Howard Stern — Ok. How to explain this one? I grew up in New Jersey listening to New York radio. In 2004, I was living in Chicago and Howard Stern was the sound of home. He made me laugh and cringe. I’d put him on the radio each morning as I drove to the Skokie courthouse for my journalism graduate school assignments. For Lent, I gave up listening to Stern’s show. This act set me on a path to be more mindful about the media I consume.
2005: The Craigslist missed connections — Oh to be single and living in Washington, D.C.! The “missed connections” section of Craigslist is where people post missives about a stranger they saw and liked but were too shy to request a phone number. I found the concept to be so romantic and I would scour the postings daily for any mention of a woman who fit my description. I was searching for my hidden suitor. For all of Lent, I had to force myself to not look, which was an act of will strengthened by faith. I mean what if my future husband saw me around 8 am at Metro Center, wearing a bright yellow coat with a red purse and knew right then that I was *the one* and I missed it and thus would miss out on finding my True Love?? See? You gotta have faith.
2006: Alcohol — This year marked my first Lent that followed a season of Mardis Gras, as I was living on the U.S. Gulf Coast. It was a grand time of non-stop balls and parades and costumes and parties. They may live in the Bible Belt, but Gulf Coast Southerners know how to have a good time — I ended up drinking and dancing nearly every night for a month. I gave up alcohol for Lent.
2007: Procrastination — A perfect one for all of us, no? Giving up procrastination meant that I must open mail as soon as it came, could not blow my newspaper deadlines and could not hit snooze on my alarm clock. I encourage you to try it, it will help you to live a more intentional life. I still struggle with this one.
2008: Possessions — One item each day of Lent — I blogged about this, here. It set me upon a life path of choosing to own fewer things.
2009: Cheese — Every day, I eat two cheese quesadillas, which I cook in the microwave. This would annoy my colleagues, as they complained that the cheese was stinky. (Trader Joe’s quattro fromaggio = heaven.) Also, I had gotten to a point in my life where I could not enjoy food unless it had cheese in it. I gave up cheese for lent. Asian food became my friend.
2010: Worrying, ruminating and dwelling –The Great Recession of 2008 and 2009, combined with a new career, the closure of my newspaper and my falling home value, had turned me into a ball of worry. Worrying is not an act of faith, and it accomplishes nothing. Whenever I found my mind going down some unproductive path, I would think, “STOP!” and force myself to pray about the problem and put it in God’s hands if it was out of my control. Here’s the best advice I have ever read about worrying.
2011: I’m taking suggestions. Maybe blogging? Gossip? My Google Reader RSS feed?
Update:
In 2011, I gave up “not reading the Bible.” It was wonderful to have a Lenten journey of action, rather than inaction. I had to crack open the Bible, or read a passage online, every day. On days where I missed or forgot, I tried to forgive myself and read a little bit more the next day.
In 2012, I gave up Facebook (using Chrome Nanny to enforce it) and swearing.
Great summary Andrea. I really enjoyed the post about giving up things, and I’m considering that this year. However, I think for me, giving up Facebook (thus, not allowing anytime for FB trolling and whatnot) is what I’m settling on so far.
Good luck in your decision, let us know what you choose.
Thanks Joe! …Let me know what you choose, too. Facebook would be so difficult, and I use it to connect with so many people. But it would force me to focus on people who are physically closer.
Mmm. Facebook would be hard for me too. I use it for business.
Are you still working from home? Could you give up your car for Lent? Only ride with others or use public transportation or your feet?
What about processed/prepackaged foods? I’d love to hear about this one, since I am working on an organic living challenge – http://themavenofsocialmedia.com/2011/03/im-a-easy-organic-living-challenge-blogger/
Kerri: I like these! It would be kind of difficult for you, the social media maven, to give up social media! I almost never drive anymore!
AJ, you are so funny. Howard Stern, really? I’m still upset that you gave up on Diet Coke (only to replace it with Coffee, I might add). You do eat cheese again, right? If you’ve sworn off cheese I don’t know if we can be friends anymore. Regarding Missed Connections, did you hear this story on NPR? http://www.npr.org/2011/02/13/133690421/this-valentines-day-a-sweet-look-at-almost-love
KB: I reverted back to eating cheese daily on Easter of that year.
I didn’t see that NPR story — I like it! It’s so romantic!
PS: I’ll never forget that you’re the one who taught me that clutter is “a decision deferred.” I think you were instrumental in my decision to give up procrastination!